honey, you're the one (of the "few") for me
every now and then i get various people (my best friend, my friend, the alpha boy's friend) asking me if i think that the alpha boy is the one. and every time i can never give them an actual answer.
i mean seriously who knows? it doesn't mean that i'm unhappy with the alpha boy or that i want to date someone else 'coz that is so far from that. maybe i haven't been with him long enough? though a great number of people have gotten married in less than the amount of time i've been with him. or maybe it's 'coz i'm not entirely convinced bout the term "the one".
as kids, we've always talked bout "the one". the romeo to your juliet, only far less tragic. the clyde to your bonnie, only far less criminal. the ben to your jerry...
the point is, we are looking for someone to, as jerry maguire says, "complete me". someone who would make you look back on your sometimes too darn crazy single days (the good and the bad kinda crazy) and think dang you sure wouldn't wanna be back there again.
for the longest while, i too was swept away by the romantic notion of "the one". but as time passed, i started looking at it from a more logical point of view.
i don't really believe in the "one", i believe in the "few".
i realise that this suddenly makes it sound like i'm either into polygamy or lack the capacity for a committed relationship but neither is the case. i just think that if you think bout it, the "one" doesn't really make sense. all it takes is for one person to mess up and choose someone who wasn't the "one" for him/her (and you know that that is bound to happen) and a whole bunch of other people could be coupled with non "ones" or simply be forced to stay single.
when i say that i believe in the "few", i mean that i think that there are a few people who, based on personality and character traits, would be suitable for one person. and then it's simply a matter of free will, opportunity, geographical location and other real life reasons that make or break relationships.
this does not make it any easier to find someone.
but it does make the alpha boy one of the "few" for me.